Friday, August 31, 2012

Gertie Throws a Hammer at Regrets, Embrace Your History

I read an incredible quote by an online writer, Sara Barron, she was writing about not having regrets and good reasons to be adventurous. I found the quote really inspiring and it reminded me of my blog. My blog that I said I would keep up on more this month, and yet.... I lied. But it made me think of my blog because the last blog I published was about not having Regrets. It was a survery from TMI Tuesday but writing it felt very cathartic. It brought alot of discussion into my current relationship as well.

I think it is important to share a certain amount of history not just with your friends, your blog readers, your therapist, but also with your partner. But this blog is about not having regrets and embracing your history, so I digress. If I were to think about a song, to imitate Ryan Beaumont, the best song  I can think of would be a little country, maybe Bless the Broken Road, by Rascal Flats.
Maybe one of you could suggest a better song, it's not my forte per se. I'd like to pick something more edgy or contemporary but nothing really comes to mind. The only suggestion I got was from my work husband and he suggested, Pebbles, Love Makes Things Happen, look out for Babyface in the video. I am not really sure that it fits into what I was going for, but hey I am letting all suggestion be heard.

Wait, I opened this blog to tell you the quote that was so inspirational about embracing your life path and adventures by Ms. Barron,

"Eventually, you’re going to meet The Guy. You’ll meet him, and love him and settle down with him. And even though you’ll love him, and even though you’ll be thrilled to settle down, you’ll want – before meeting him – to have some experience under your belt. Your monogamous, LTR will be made all the sweeter when you have those mad adventures to remember."

Although this quote is geared toward finding a Guy, I think it is universal to any partner, male, female, superhero, space alien, all partners could be interchangeable. 

So as you are searching out there for your Mr. Right, don't look pass the fun you could be having with Mr. Right Now... You never know what's going to put a smile on your face when you're eighty years old and remembering your adventurous youth! In Gertie's mind, those little old ladies don't regret they adventures they had but rather the ones, they didn't take.

Watch out for Hammers, 

Gertie XOXO

Ps My next few blogs will be about the man who liked cake, the first Man I ever loved, Steelers Guy, and a retort about what school of love Gertie hails from.

Tuesday, August 14, 2012

Does Gertie have any regrets?

Since I haven't been blogging much, I am going to kick down the door and jump back in with a TMI Tuesday post, hope you enjoy!! 

Looking back on our lives, we can have a mix of reactions to the things we’ve done. When it comes to sex, our memories can color us with pride, fondness, nostalgia, indifference, or all too often, regret.
This week’s TMI Tuesday questions delve into things that people typically regret later in life. How much do you regret, if at all, any of the following?

1. Do you regret how you “lost” your virginity? If yes, why and to whom would you have preferred to have lost it?

I  do not regret how I lost my virginity. I was old enough, it was someone who I was in love with, and it really was special. As I hang my head in shame, I am about to quote Awkward(yes that teen angst show on MTV) as Lacey says to Jenna when discussing having sex with someone for the first time," Jenna, contrary to the advice I've been giving Ally; you need to know that every first time is the first time, and it should be special." But if I could have lost my virginity to Jared Leto in his role as Jordan Catalano in My So Called Life, I wouldn't have complained. Just another great example of class MTV cult show because really who doesn't want to be told, "You're so beautiful it hurts to look at you."

2. Have you ever lived a moment in your life where you said “Yeah, I’m not going to ever tell anyone about that.” Describe that moment or incident.

Hmm so if I had a secret where  in the moment I told myself I would never tell anyone about it would I really admit it on this only semi-anonymous blog..... I think not!! I think this question more relates to sex than actions in your life, because that is the overall tone of the Q&A. I am going to feign a blonde moment because its summer and all the swimming is starten to lighten my hair..... so there was this one time where I slid across the floor at the Hippo in the bathroom and then I peed my pants, washed my pants in the sink and dryed them under the hand dryer......many moons ago, but that moment and the ensuing even it occurred in will remain a moment in history I will not tell anyone about.
3. Do you regret having acted on a sexual impulse? If yes, please describe.

I  do not regret acting on a sexual impulse, but there are many moments I look back on and wonder what I was thinking. For example I used to make out and do all kinds of crazy sex acts in cars when I was much younger and not scared of being arrested for public indecency. Who knew the back seat, front seat, and overall the car in general had so much space!?!! It all seems ridiculous to me know but at the time being in the moment was all I can remember. Especially the guy I used to date who liked it when I wore skirts when we had a long drives and his ability to multitask and keep us on the road.

4. Do you regret not having had sex with someone who you could have had sex? If yes, would you do it over and have sex?

I don't regret having not had sex with anyone who I could have had sex with. I slightly regret not being aware of some of the opportunities I could have had if I had known people had feelings for me. I friend zoned people pretty quickly in my youth.  I would probably have regrets if I would have taken advantage of even some of those opportunities. So kudos to me for being a naive prude!

Although I definitely do not regret the guy in college who always hooked me up without reciprocation. All things being equal I should probably have had sex with him but that I did not have sex with him is something that I count as a score for all the Ladies in the battle of the sexes. We should all be so lucky to find some guy who only wants to eat cake and hook you up when he is drunk, setting the bar high for all men who came after him! :)
5. Do you regret not having asked out or tried to hook up with someone you really liked out of fear of rejection only to later learn that person wanted you, too? If yes, please describe.

We all know I have crushes as obvious from my previous posts. There are of course people I find attractive that I may have waited to flirt or hook up with. From this lesson I have learned that there is probably a reason why I don't act on these fears. Perhaps they are married, have hairy backs, or are lousy lovers. I feel like if there is something holding me back it is really a gut instinct protecting my best interest. If I would have hooked up with a crush who liked me back this could be an entirely different blog about kids and crafts, and honestly would you want to read that?
6. Do you regret having done a particular sex act? If yes, please describe.

This one time at band camp, well actually I never went to band camp...I think I have tried some sex acts that I have been less into than others, but I wouldn't say I regretted any of them. The closest thing I came to regretting was taking the Moogle's V card. If I would have never had sex with a virgin, my life would be the same. A lot less funny, but I can't say that sex act added anything to my sexual repertoire....only to jokes that can be made by my friends.
Bonus: Do you regret not having told someone you love them? Romantic, not familial or friendship love.

I  do not regret not having told someone I loved them in a romantic way because I am pretty open with my feelings and I share them with someone when I care for them. I don't drop the L bomb lightly, but when I do I generally mean it. Except for that one time when I said it during, well that is for an entirely different blog post.....

On a closing note, there is an anonymous quote or rather a quote that I can't tell whom it was authored by and it says,

"In the end we only regret the chances we didn't take. The relationships we were too scared to have and the decisions we waited too long to make. There comes a time in your life when you realize who matters, who doesn't, who never did, and who always will"

Watch out for Hammers, 

Gertie XOXO

 How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your webspace (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to tmituesdayblog from your website!
Happy TMI Tuesday!